Does the leather community have a Nazi problem?
A recent controversy at the Tom of Finland Foundation has sparked debate about the line between fetish and fascism.
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Alexander Cheves
In defense of gay monogamy
In a time when polyamory is trending, Out's Last Call columnist asked gay couples about the virtues of exclusive pairings.
June 24 2024 9:44 PM
How to fight LGBTQ+ book bans
History warns of censorship’s consequences. Here’s how to fight it.
January 31 2024 12:01 PM
What Makes a Single Queer Man Desirable in 2023?
As Out brings back its list of Most Eligible Bachelors, Last Call columnist Alexander Cheves reflects on the meaning of eligibility.
June 23 2023 9:52 AM
Help! How Do I Know If I'm Addicted to Porn?
Advice columnist, author, and queer sex writer Alexander Cheves breaks down one reader's question about their relationship with porn — and the stigmas so many people still have about it.
August 04 2022 4:12 PM
Here's How Technology Will (and Won't) Change Sex in the Future
As technology and a pandemic push digital encounters, a writer stresses the importance of IRL connections.
February 14 2022 5:00 AM
What is chemsex? Here's what you need to know
Everything you need to know about "party and play" culture.
February 28 2025 3:10 PM
'AI? Bye!' Why I'm quitting Grindr for good
Back on the dating market, the Last Call columnist finds a few reasons to unplug from technology.
January 26 2025 10:00 AM
Mama, kudos: A thank-you to Q & 'Drag Race's HIV advocates
RuPaul's Drag Race contestants have been moving the culture and public education on HIV forward since the show's inception, praises Out columnist Alexander Cheves.
May 16 2024 10:20 AM
How to Fight an Anti-LGBTQ+ SCOTUS? In a Nasty Pig Jockstrap
A Supreme Court decision allowing LGBTQ+ discrimination in business drives home the importance of a Nasty Pig jockstrap — and supporting queer-owned companies.
August 25 2023 2:47 PM
Diplo Is the Unlikely Ambassador of a Sexually Fluid Future
Diplo is “not not gay.” So what does that mean for the state of LGBTQ+ labels?
May 23 2023 12:03 PM
It's Time to Talk About Gay Steroid Use
Bros shone a light on men using testosterone injections to achieve a muscular physique. Columnist Alexander Cheves further explores its queer history and dangers.
January 17 2023 7:00 AM
The Sex Party Checklist: A Guide to Helping Your Guests Come Together
Out's Alexander Cheves offers tips on how to make your next sex party a fun, unforgettable occasion.
August 19 2022 5:59 PM
The jockstrap's 150th birthday is a gay milestone—here's why
The underwear is still going strong in large part due to its embrace by the queer community.
August 20 2024 9:30 AM
Gay gym culture has a deadly downside
Amplified by social media, body dysmorphia and other mental health issues are taking a toll on queer men.
April 04 2024 10:18 AM
Dying Gay Bars? There's a Sobering Upside
The sober-curious movement hurts gay bars, but it’s a lifeline for a community that has been disproportionately harmed by substances.
March 30 2023 9:47 AM
13 New Tips for Happier, Healthier Bottoming
Bottoming is great, but there's A LOT that comes with it, writes Out's sex writer.
August 31 2022 10:47 AM
How a Cis Gay Man Learned to Embrace Women's Panties
Alexander Cheves navigates fears related to stigma and fetishization.
August 08 2022 8:00 AM
Turning 30: What It Means When You're Gay
Not a boy, not yet a daddy, writes Out columnist Alexander Cheves.
May 10 2022 5:00 AM
How To Be the Best Top You Can Be
Topping is an art form, and there's a lot that goes into it, explains advice columnist, author, and queer sex writer Alexander Cheves.