Gus Kenworthy opens up about threesomes, foursomes, and public sex

Gus Kenworthy didn't mince words!

RuPaul's Drag Race superstar Katya is back with another season of the Grindr Presents: Who’s The A**hole? podcast and YouTube series. During each episode, Katya interviews a different celebrity guest who spills the tea on sex, love, dating, hookups, interacting with others on the apps, among other topics.

On Thursday, February 27, a brand-new episode of the Grindr series dropped with Gus Kenworthy as a special guest. The former freestyle skier and Olympic medalist has continued to embrace his acting career, starring in films like 80 for Brady and Don't Tell Mom the Babysitter's Dead, as well as TV shows such as American Horror Story: 1984 and Will & Grace.

Kenworthy clearly felt at ease with Katya in this interview and gave fans an even more unfiltered version of himself while answering questions about sex, dating, and more. In the end, Kenworthy was one of the most candid and entertaining guests to be interviewed by Katya in this Grindr web series.

Give your partner a timeline to define your relationship?

Kenworthy argued that "it's kind of weird to give [someone] an ultimatum, early on, like that. Where it's like, 'I need to know by next month what we are!'"

"I feel like that happens [when] one person is ready to sort of define it, and maybe the other person isn't," he added. "But I feel like an ultimatum is just going to push them away."

Katya asked Kenworthy how he thinks that conversation should go, or if the status of a relationship is more of an unspoken dynamic.

"I think it's spoken," the athlete replied. "But [it should be] like, 'Are we like exclusive? Are we still hooking up with other people? Are we together? Are we boyfriends?'"

He went on, "There's so many f*cking tiers. You can be seeing someone, but you're not dating. You can be dating someone, but you're not boyfriends. You can be boyfriends, but you're not exclusive…"

Are you jealous?

Katya explained that she's struggled with the concept of open relationships because she can be a little jealous at times. But is Kenworthy jealous?

"Not really," the Olympic athlete answered. "But I also think that a little bit of jealousy is good. Like, if you're not jealous at all… I don't know, if you're really that interested in this person, there should be like a…"

Katya chimed in, "A little romantic?"

"Yeah, it is a little bit romantic to be protective," Kenworthy said. "I'm also not saying that all relationships should be open, but one of the things that's beautiful about queer relationships is that we are — just by nature — non-traditional. So we don't actually have to conform to heteronormative traditions. We're sexual beings, and we can navigate that."

Kenworthy argued that, overall, "the baseline is trust, honesty, communication. And then you can set your own parameters, and you can move through the relationship however you want to."

Do you like threesomes?

"I do like threesomes, yeah," Kenworthy quickly replied. "I'm like a serial monogamist. I mean, I guess not necessarily, [as] they haven't always been monogamous. But I've always been in a relationship… like, literally my entire life."

The athlete continued, "I was in a relationship [while] in the closet. That relationship ended shortly before I came out publicly. And then, at that same time, I started dating one of my exes. We were together for four years. It went pretty much butt-up to when I dated my next ex, for also four years. And then was single for like four months, and then I was with someone for a year. Now I'm with someone else. I'm, like, a mess."

And yet, Kenworthy noted that always being in a relationship is why he's "had a lot of threesomes." He continued, "I would say I've had more threesomes than I've had sex, like, one-on-one with people."

"Get out of town," Katya reacted.

Kenworthy said, "I've been in relationships almost my entire life, right? During some of those relationships, at the beginning, they've all been monogamous. But then, at the end, when they've been open, I've had sex with other people without my partner."

"But most of the time that I've had sex with other people has been a threesome or a foursome," he concluded.

Have you ever, as a couple, approached someone? Like, you go out hunting for a third? What does that look like?

Kenworthy answered, "I would say: lead with that information. I feel like sometimes people are weird, and you like get pretty far along with someone, and you're thinking it's going to be a hookup, and then they're like, 'Oh, by the way, is it okay if like my boyfriend also joins?' And then you see the boyfriend and it's like a literal cockroach."

The athlete also offered his general advice for threesomes that involve "picking up a third." He explained:

"It's hard to know sometimes, for sure, but make sure [the third is] kind of equally into you and your partner. Because that ends up being the thing that makes threesomes not really work. Obviously, if you and your partner are together, you already have the bond… but you want to make sure you're both into [that other person] and they're into both of you. Then it's like, you're going to all have fun. But if one person's into one person and not the other, you're kind of doing something, like, begrudgingly. It just creates a weird dynamic."