Chappell Roan's plea for privacy is an overdue cultural reset for pop music stans

Chappell Roan recently made headlines with a TikTok video doubling down on her plea for superfans to respect her privacy and her boundaries. Unfortunately, the pop star received quite a bit of backlash following that first video, prompting Roan to share one more statement about the topic — declaring that this will be the last time she addresses this issue.

Over the weekend, the Midwest Princess sent a clear message that there's a time and place for everything. She is standing her ground, refusing to be disrespected and have her boundaries broken by people who don't actually know her under the guise that these people are her "stans." While some argue that stardom comes with a price, there many many super-stans who take it too far, and that's precisely the audience that Roan addresses in these statements.

Roan wrote in the caption of the Instagram carousel that included her full, lengthy statement.

"I turned off comments because I'm not looking for anyone's response. This isn't a group conversation. I understand that this is jarring to hear from a person in my position. I'm not afraid of the consequences for demanding respect. Just to let you know, every woman is feeling or has felt similar to what I'm experiencing. This isn't a new situation. If you see me as a b*tch or ungrateful or my entire statement upsets you, baby that's you... you gotta look inward and ask yourself, 'Wait why am I so upset by this? Why is a girl expressing her fears and boundaries so infuriating?' That is all.Thank you for reading."

Roan began in the first Instagram carousel slide:

"For the past 10 years, I've been going non-stop to build my project and it's come to the point that I need to draw lines and set boundaries. I want to be an artist for a very very long time. I've been in too many non-consensual physical and social interactions and I need to just lay it out and remind you, women don't owe you shit.

She continued "I chose this career path because I love music and art and honoring my inner child, I do not accept harassment of any kind because I chose this path, nor do I deserve it."

The posts continued:

"When I'm on stage, when I'm performing, when I'm in drag, when I'm at a work event, when I'm doing press...I am at work. Any other circumstance, l am not in work mode. I am clocked out. I don't agree with the notion that I owe a mutual exchange of energy, time, or attention to people I do not know, do not trust, or who creep me out just because they're expressing admiration."

Roan added, "Women do not owe you a reason why they don't want to be touched or talked to. This has nothing to do with the gratitude and love I feel for my community, for the people who respect my boundaries, and for the love I feel from every person who lifts me up and has stuck with me to help the project get to where it is now."

The rising star added this was not an attack on her fans, but the trolls disguised as superfans:

"I am specifically talking about predatory behavior (disguised as 'superfan' behavior) that has become normalized because of the way women who are well-known have been treated in the past. Please do not assume you know a lot about someone's life, personality, and boundaries because you are familiar with them or their work online."

Following the singer's first set of videos, fans alluded Roan was ungrateful for her recent rise to stardom. Roan assured fans that was not the case. At the end of the day, Roan is still a human being who wants to live life without the fear of being followed and harassed.

Roan wrote, "If you're still asking, 'Well, if you didn't want this to happen, then why did you choose a career where you knew you wouldn't be comfortable with the outcome of success?' Understand this: I embrace the success of the project, the love I feel, and the gratitude I have. What I do not accept are creepy people, being touched, and being followed."

Roan tried to explain her situation to fans:

"This situation is similar to the idea that if a woman wears a short skirt and gets harassed or catcalled, she shouldn't have worn the short skirt in the first place. It is not the woman's duty to suck it up and take it; it is the harasser's duty to be a decent person, leave her alone, and respect that she can wear whatever she wants and still deserve peace in this world."

The singer continued on, telling fans what was making her most uncomfortable. At the same time expressing that while she does feel the love, she also feels the danger of it.

"I want to love my life, be outside, giggle with my friends, go to the movie theater, feel safe, and do all the things every single person deserves to do. Please stop touching. me. Please stop being weird to my family and friends. Please stop assuming things about me. There is always more to the story. I am scared and tired. And please — don't call me Kayleigh. I feel more love than I ever have in my life. I feel the most unsafe I have ever felt in my life."

Roan's last and final message touched on how she chooses to separate parts of her life, while also thanking the fans who understood the need for this statement.

"There is a part of myself that I save just for my project and all of you," she concluded. "There is a part of myself that is just for me, and I don't want that taken away from me. Thank you for reading this. I appreciate your understanding and support."

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