10 Reasons Every Gay Man Should Try a Throuple Once
A throuple (portmanteau of the words threesome and couple) is a three-person relationship. All three people in the relationship love and care for one another equally. Throuples can be open (meaning you also are sleeping with people outside of the throuple) or closed (meaning it's just you and your two hubbies).
I am under the firm impression that every queer man should try a throuple at least once (either open or closed), and here's why:
1. It forces you to work on jealousy issues
There is no grosser and more toxic feeling than jealousy. Being in a throuple forces you to confront your jealousy issues head on and come to terms with your own insecurities. That's not to say you won't get jealous in a throuple from time to time; that's to be expected. You will, however, be forced to come to terms with your jealousy through introspection and communication.
2. It forces you to become a better communicator
Now it's not just you and your man that need to be on the same page. There's a third person. Everything needs to be clear, honest, and direct when you're in a throuple in order for the relationship to thrive.
3. Can get different needs met by each partner
There's a notion in modern romance that all of our needs are going to be met by one person -- our "life partner." This concept only started in the past century, and for many, it isn't the case. We can't expect one person to give us everything we need, which is why it's crucial to remain close with your friends and family members whenever you start a new relationship. But by having two partners, you are doubling the chances that your needs will be met. Each partner will have strengths and weaknesses and be able to help you through different trying times.
4. Two heads are better than one
Figuratively and literally... But focusing on the figurative, you have one more person whose opinion you respect, whose advice you trust, and whose thoughts challenge yours.
5. Two shoulders to cry on
When you're down, need support, crave attention, or anything else, you now have two shoulders to cry on as opposed to one. Having a second person to support you through trying times can be what helps you make it through whatever troubles you're experiencing.
6. Cuddling
Not only do you have the options of big and little spoon, you have the best option of all: MIDDLE SPOON. Sandwiched between you and your men, with you as the meat in the middle. I honestly cannot think of a single thing better in the entire world.
7. Your family triples
So this is good and bad... Thanksgiving dinners may get complicated, and surely, there will be some family drama when you bring your two men home. (Not only is he gay, he has TWO boyfriends!) But hey, it's worth it. And if you're someone like me who loves your extended family, it'll be great to have more in-laws.
8. Your friend group expands exponentially
More boyfriends mean more friend groups. Your social circle will grow HUGE. You will always have someone to hang out with no matter the time of day.
9. You have an additional hand parenting
If you do decide to have children, you will have an additional parent to help raise the child. As any parent will tell you, having the additional help is always appreciated. (Also, imagine being a kid with three gay dads. Doesn't that sound amazing?)
10. The sex
I think this one is pretty self-explanatory. Threesomes on threesomes on threesomes! Or if you're only in the mood for one, you just have one. But from the one time I was in a throuple (and from my friends who currently are in one), I can tell you that it's literally a sex party all the time.
