Queer women weigh in on the discourse about creepy straight dudes going to lesbian bars

She also seemed shocked that straight men wouldn't be welcome in a Sapphic space, despite "the amount of very obviously flamboyantly gay men that were in that bar that were not being approached and yelled at."

First off, it sounds like she may not understand that gay men would be perceived differently inside a queer space than straight men. Second, her word choice of "flamboyant gay men" feels suspect.

Stout continued, "She was not having it. She did not want him in that bar at all, and I get it. But, like, there's no rules against that… But I was just curious. Are straight males not allowed to go to a lesbian bar?"

Then the queer side of TikTok had a field day stitching her video. @fruitbbygirl responded with a video saying, "No, they are not. And straight women who prioritize a man's comfort over lesbian safety are also not welcome at the lesbian bar. I hope this helps!"

Another TikTok content creator succinctly lays out why straight people pushing their way into queer spaces is so infuriating. "I love the New York City lesbian bar drama," @folaisfine said. "A, because i love to see white people fight, but B, I just think it's funny how marginalized people who are excluded from certain spaces make their own spaces and then the people who excluded them from those original spaces are like, 'Why can't I be in this space?'"

@lilfeistyfemme starts her stitch by telling Stout that she needs to "check your entitlement and your privilege and your audacity "and then says, "Baby, you need to realize these places were not made for you. When you come to a gay space, you are a guest, and you need to behave accordingly."

Next in a surprising turn of events, the lesbian woman Stout interacted with at the bar made a response video of her own. She explained that when she saw the straight male friend, he seemed "a little bit grumpy" and that she asked him, "Okay, dude. Are you even here with anyone? What are you doing at this bar?"

Later, the man returned and asked, "Well, if I wasn't here with someone, would that be a problem?" At which point, a lot of Stout's friends ganged up on her.

"I want literally nothing to do with straight people, which is why I'm in Cubbyhole in the first place," she said, explaining that she's seen many cis straight men cause problems in lesbian bars.

On February 1, Stout made a follow-up video about the fallout she experienced after posting her original video. "I have learned my lesson, and I will never be returning to a lesbian bar ever again, for good reason," Stout added. "It's plain and simple: It's not a space for me."

There ya go. Took you long enough.

The topic has been picking up steam on X (formerly Twitter), too, with people posting their own horror stories of running into straight men at lesbian bars.

"i was once in a gay bar and a pretty girl came up to me and asked if i was a lesbian and i was like yeah and she was like damn that’s a shame cos my friend over there likes you, and she pointed to a man," one woman wrote on X.

Another X user posted about their own experience dealing a woman and her boyfriend at a bar. "i was once in a gay bar and me and a pretty girl were really vibing and dancing together and started making out and then she pulled her boyfriend in out of nowhere and tried to get me to make out with him," the person wrote. "i was with friends and made us leave immediately cos i felt violated..."

The topic has continued to go viral on social media, spurred on by people sharing their personal stories and their utter confusion about why straight people are so pressed about going into lesbian and gay bars.

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