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Out100 Voices Ashlee Marie Preston
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Out100 | Voices

From advocate to icon, this changemaker continues to inspire and empower the community

Ashlee Marie Preston has been a fierce trans advocate and community activist. She continues to make it her mission to empower others in her latest endeavor.

30 Years, 30 Stories: join us in celebrating the 30th anniversary of Out100 with our Voices essays, featuring powerful personal narratives from past honorees that have shaped the LGBTQ+ community. Unlock the Out100 Vault to explore additional stories and reflect on three decades of progress and resilience. And, while you’re there, don’t forget to cast your vote for this year's Out100 Reader's Choice!


For some, activism can appear as a vanity title to add to resumes or social bios. But for others, it’s a dedication to service, amplifying the voiceless and marginalized in the community.

And no one embodies advocacy work this more than Ashlee Marie Preston.

Between our burnt-out laptop chargers and unexpected glitches, Ashlee Marie and I connected to discuss her journey, advocacy, and vision for the future. Despite the grey, cloudy skies, Ashlee Marie's warmth and resilience shone through, enlivening the chat and setting the stage for a deep and engaging conversation.

Ashlee’s journey began in Louisville, Kentucky, before she moved to Los Angeles at 19. “I was excited about discovering who I was, independent of familial influence,” she shared. But the excitement quickly met with the harsh realities of transphobia and discrimination. “I was harassed and bullied at work, and HR did very little,” she reflects. “Eventually, they let me go, saying I was no longer fit for the professional milieu.”

The job loss led to a cascade of hardships: losing her apartment, ending up on the streets of Hollywood, and engaging in survival sex work. Ashlee’s experiences were brutal, yet she emerged fiercely determined to advocate for others. “Unlike many of our (trans) siblings, I came through those experiences unscathed. I wanted my experiences to mean something.”

Ashlee’s advocacy began at a local nonprofit, but she soon realized the limitations of nonprofit work. “I was one paycheck away from being in the same predicament as the demographic I served.” This realization pushed her towards unconventional advocacy methods, leveraging social media and building relationships with celebrities to amplify her message.

“I used social media as a digital diary, and it caught the attention of editors. Fast forward, I became the first openly trans person to become editor-in-chief of a publication and ran for California state office.” Discussing the impact of representation, Ashlee highlighted the significance of her work and recognized the gift of her voice. Her hashtag campaign #ThriveOver35 responded to alarming statistics about the life expectancy of transgender individuals, especially Black trans women, offering hope and possible models for the younger generation.

Despite the phenomenal work, one of Ashlee's biggest challenges is burnout and overextension. “The question was, ‘Who’s healing the healers? Who’s caring for the people caring for the people?’” The burnout led to the founding of her organization, YouAreEssential, which shifted its focus to intergenerational and multicultural healing. “We often don’t get to be vulnerable in our work. We can’t find healing within the same ecosystems, making us sick.”

Nevertheless, Ashlee’s passions include creating safe spaces and fostering a culture of collective care. “Grind culture is the old paradigm,” she affirms. Liberation is in the moment—every second, hour, day, week, month, and year, we experience joy as an active revolution.”

This philosophy extends to her work with KaleidoCollective, a new initiative aimed at increasing queer and trans representation in media. “We want to be the best-known secret. We’re building robust ecosystems to get our content made and get us paid, emphasizing ownership and economic opportunities.”

Ashlee’s journey from the streets of Hollywood to the forefront of trans advocacy is a testament to her resilience and vision. Her work inspires and empowers, highlighting the importance of community, representation, and the relentless pursuit of equity and justice.

On the 30th anniversary of the Out100, the 2018 honoree admits how the list was a paradigm shift for her. “For so many years, grassroots organizers were seen as firebrands, blacklisted rather than outlisted,” she says, recognizing the distinction was deeply meaningful and affirmed her hard work. “To be given my flowers while I’m alive means a lot. It’s the ammunition I need to keep going full steam ahead.”

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Out100 | Voices

Out and loud, Brian Sims makes waves in LGBTQ+ advocacy

The legislator turned political consultant shares his story during and after his time in the Pennsylvania House of Representatives, championing the next wave of LGBTQ+ politicians and activists.


30 Years, 30 Stories: join us in celebrating the 30th anniversary of Out100 with our Voices essays, featuring powerful personal narratives from past honorees that have shaped the LGBTQ+ community. Unlock the Out100 Vault to explore additional stories and reflect on three decades of progress and resilience.

This month's Democratic National Convention featured electrifying, inspiring, and engaging speakers. But the third day was the most impactful to me—when LGBTQ+ rights were front and center on that stage, with Human Rights Campaign's Kelley Robinson affirming at the podium, "Equality without exception. Joy without exception. And when we fight, we win."

It's a fight Brian Sims knows too well. As the first out gay Pennsylvania state legislator, Brian has never shied away from advocating for others.

"It's busy times," Brian says with a chuckle, a life that includes spending time with his dog and fiancé. But being busy is nothing new for Brian. As the first openly gay man elected to the Pennsylvania House of Representatives, Sims has always been at the forefront of the fight for equality. "When I joined the legislature, I knew I wanted to pursue advancing LGBTQ+ rights and civil through allyship," he reflects. And this wasn't just a vague concept for him – it was a strategy rooted in action.

Brian's approach to allyship was about more than just standing in solidarity but actively taking on the fights of others as his own. "I wasn't going to wait for the women in the House to stand up every time sexist legislation was introduced. I could stand up and say something," he explains. "And I wasn't going to wait for my colleagues of color to have to use their political capital talking about their experiences. I could do that." This early commitment to being a vocal ally defined his first term and set the tone for how he would approach his role as a legislator.

This dedication and historic win in Pennsylvania led to Brian being recognized as an Out100 honoree in 2013. However, for Brian, this recognition was more than just a personal achievement; it was a reminder of the broader impact of his work. "Being nominated and receiving the recognition reminded me that this work is critically important and that it needed to be happy in other places," he says.

But with the visibility and recognition came challenges.

Brian talks candidly about the backlash he faced, particularly from his conservative colleagues, who saw him as an easy target. "I was often the scapegoat for equality, the scapegoat for civil rights," he recalls. The public pressure was so intense that Brian wore a bulletproof vest to and from his office in his final years as a legislator. "It was terrifying, going online, trying to figure out where to get one," he recalls.

The vest, a stark symbol of the threats he faced, now sits in his fiancé's parents' attic – a haunting reminder of the risks of being a visible advocate for change.

Brian's commitment to representation and visibility has only deepened despite these challenges. Over the years, he's learned that being an out legislator wasn't enough.

It's about being out in all aspects of life.

"People needed to see me being out. They needed to see me with my partners," he says. He recalled the importance of attending Pride events and including his partner in campaign ads, even when advised against it. "I knew I could push that boundary."

Today, Brian continues to fight for LGBTQ+ rights, though his focus has shifted to national advocacy. He now works as a consultant with companies, candidates, and politicians. Sims also does work with Agenda PAC, which targets the anti-LGBTQ+ legislators in America. "We're working across the country to highlight these people's terrible agendas," he says. He's also involved with Drag PAC, an initiative where some of the U.S.'s most famous drag artists use their platforms to mobilize voters against anti-trans and anti-drag legislation.

Brian's journey from state legislator to national advocate has been marked by personal growth and professional milestones. But I couldn't help myself and asked if there were considerations for a run for Congress.

"My energies are best spent trying to find, train, and help fund those that are running for Congress," he said with a smile.

As Out100 marks its 30th anniversary, Brian reflects on what it means to be part of this group of LGBTQ+ changemakers. "It is a poignant reminder that the community that I most align with, that I most identify with, is a massively diverse community," he says.

For Brian, this diversity is the community's greatest strength and the key to achieving full equality.

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Marie-Adélina de la Ferrière

Marie-Adélina de la Ferrière is the Community Editor at equalpride, publisher of The Advocate, Out, Out Traveler, Plus, and Pride.com. A first-generation Haitian-American trans woman with a robust history of independent work as a communications and social media expert, she has tirelessly championed LGBTQ+ artists and performers, creating a vibrant community engagement approach that infuses each project with a dynamic and innovative perspective. Like and follow her on social: @ageofadelina.

Marie-Adélina de la Ferrière is the Community Editor at equalpride, publisher of The Advocate, Out, Out Traveler, Plus, and Pride.com. A first-generation Haitian-American trans woman with a robust history of independent work as a communications and social media expert, she has tirelessly championed LGBTQ+ artists and performers, creating a vibrant community engagement approach that infuses each project with a dynamic and innovative perspective. Like and follow her on social: @ageofadelina.