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Kevin Aviance personal essay resilience authenticity black queer community
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Voices

My unapologetic journey on embracing resilience and authenticity

Kevin Aviance's life story unfolds as a vibrant symphony of resilience and artistry, deeply resonating within the black queer community and leaving an indelible mark on society's cultural tapestry.

Growing up in a bustling household set the stage for my life's symphony—a blend of chaos, harmony, and relentless drive. My journey wasn't paved with formal training but molded by the gritty, vibrant streets of New York City. The hustle, the grind, and the raw exposure to life's unfiltered essence became my alma mater, crafting a performer unafraid to bear his soul on stage.

Art for me was never just an expression; it was a lifeline, a mirror reflecting the multifaceted experiences of my life. Each performance and note carried the weight of my trials, triumphs, and the unspoken stories of those who shared my path. Little did I know this would resonate deeply within the black queer community. My art became a beacon, a testament to the power of visibility and empowerment in a world that often sought to dim our light.

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The House of Aviance, my chosen family, became a sanctuary for me and many others—doctors, lawyers, and artists, all thriving under the banner of our collective identity. We were a testament to the enduring spirit of the ballroom culture, a vibrant tapestry woven with threads of resilience, creativity, and unapologetic authenticity. This culture, our culture, has seeped into the mainstream, leaving indelible marks on music, fashion, and the very fabric of society. Icons like Madonna and Beyoncé may have brought it to the global forefront. Still, the unyielding spirit of the ballroom dynasties held it aloft, demanding recognition and respect for its artistry and people.

Challenges from external forces and my own missteps have punctuated my life's narrative. Yet, each morning brings a renewal, a silent pact to embrace the day's potential, rise above the fray, and continue the march forward. This resilience, born of adversity, has become the cornerstone of my message to the community—a clarion call to embrace each day as a gift, persevere with grace, and always move forward.

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The landscape for black queer artists has transformed dramatically over the decades. From the fringes, we have moved to the forefront, not just participating but leading conversations, shaping culture, and redefining norms. The respect and recognition that eluded us for so long are now within grasp, propelling us towards greater heights, towards a future where our voices are not just heard but revered. Seeing children like Honey Balenciaga hold the GLBOAL stage in their awe, beauty, and talent is so inspiring.

My music, my art, is a mosaic of my life's experiences, a celebration of liberation, identity, and the unyielding quest for self-expression. It is a dialogue with my audience, an invitation to explore the depths of their own stories, to find solace and strength, and perhaps a reflection of their journeys within my melodies.

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The recognition of my work by artists of the caliber of Beyoncé has been a surreal chapter in my story. To see my voice, my essence, woven into the tapestry of her art was a validation of my journey. But also a sign that Black queer stories - our stories, our struggles, and our triumphs - resonate far beyond the confines of our immediate surroundings. It is a testament to the universality of our experiences, a bridge connecting disparate worlds through the power of art.

To the queer artists of color who stand on the precipice of their journeys, I say this: Embrace your truth, your identity, and your artistry with unwavering conviction.

The road may be fraught with challenges, but it is yours to claim. Let your art be a beacon, a force of change, and a source of inspiration. In the tapestry of life, let your thread shine with the vibrant hues of your unique story, for in the end, your authenticity will leave an indelible mark on the world.

Kevin Avianceis a musician, drag artist, and nightlife personality based in New York City, with a renown career expanding across nearly four decades. Like and follow Kevin Aviance on social at @kevinavianceofficial.

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Can pop music save souls? Chappell Roan is giving us hits & visibility
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It Gets Better Youth Voices Class Of 2025

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Can pop music save souls? Chappell Roan is giving us hits & visibility

Chappell Roan is a queer joy rebel teaching us all how to take up space, love loudly, and unapologetically own our identities.

Discovering Chappell Roan for the first time felt like discovering magic — like finally finding a home in a world that doesn't always make space for our stories. As Youth Voices with It Gets Better, we come from different backgrounds and places (two of us in this class are from the Midwest). Still, we share something powerful: the experience of seeing ourselves represented by someone who not only exudes queer joy but demands respect for it.

Chappell Roan is more than an artist who creates music we love to scream-sing; she's a force of nature who shows us what it looks like to take up space unapologetically. Chappell's music has opened up a space for conversations many of us have never had but honestly needed. Songs like "Good Luck Babe" or "HOT TO GO!" make it feel less awkward to talk about our crushes, love lives, and identities with straight friends because she broadcast the world of lesbian love into the mainstream.

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When you feel alone in your sexual orientation and unable to find community, a Chappell Roan song helps you through.

What makes Chappell Roan special isn't just the joy she radiates but how she uses that joy to uplift the queer community. In an industry that often tokenizes or sidelines LGBTQ+ artists, Chappell stands firm, demanding respect for herself and all of us.

It's not often you see someone who has all the odds stacked against them still persevere and create such a substantial impact on the communities they're in. As a woman, she speaks to all other women, saying they are powerful, influential, and capable of achieving anything they desire. As a queer person, she tells us we are worthy of a voice, deserving of respect, and worthy of generating joy in a world that may never understand us.

Because here's the truth: in a world that wants women and LGBTQIA+ people to quiet down, Chappell stands up and speaks, and we think that's powerful. It's easy to let people walk all over you.

Chappell has taught us to speak up for ourselves and self-advocate — even when, as teenagers born into a culture of insecurity, we instinctively start every sentence with "I'm sorry." This year, we honor that there is no need to apologize for our identities– and that's because of Chappell.

When Chappell accepted the MTV Video Music Award for Best New Artist, she dedicated it "to all the drag artists who inspire me," the "queer and trans people who fuel pop," and most memorably, "the queer kids in the Midwest watching right now, I see you. I understand you because I'm one of you. And don't ever let anyone tell you that you can't be exactly who you want to be." She spoke directly to us, reminding us that success isn't just about breaking through barriers—it's about ensuring others can follow. Her insistence on elevating queer voices shows us what it means to build a community where everyone has the right to be heard.

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Chappell Roan represents a world where queer identities can be loud and proud, even in places that don't always feel welcoming. She shows us queer joy is universal, uniting us through shared experiences. She makes us feel less alone and that anything is possible, no matter where we're from, and that's a rare and beautiful gift.

Through every scream-your-heart-out lyric she writes, Chappell cultivates joy. And in a time fraught with such hate, political upheaval, and fear— we Youth Voices believe that joy is precisely what we need. Time and time again, 2024 has shown us that it's really easy to scare people. Chappell does something different, which, we would argue, is much more challenging: she uplifts.

Chappell Roan has given us more than music. She's given us permission to be our full, unapologetic selves. She's proof that our joy is a revolutionary act and that our identities are worthy of celebration. Simply put, our love for Chappell Roan is not casual; it's all-consuming. Not just because of her pop-bangers but because she stands up for the LGBTQIA+ community when we need her most.

The It Gets Better Youth Voices Class of 2025 is honored to invite Chappell Roan to join our Joy Rebellion as our Joy Rebel of the Year. Thank you, Chappell, for being a champion for us all and for reminding us every day what queer joy looks like.

Youth Voices is an annual cohort of ten LGBTQ+ young people from around the country who collaborate with It Gets Better to share their unique stories and advice with LGBTQ+ youth worldwide. They learn vital leadership skills, strengthen their ability to advocate for themselves and their peers, and have a passion for creating change in their communities. It Gets Better is a nonprofit organization with a mission to uplift, empower, and connect LGBTQ+ youth around the globe.

Voices is dedicated to featuring a wide range of inspiring personal stories and impactful opinions from the LGBTQ+ community and its allies. Visit out.com/submit to learn more about submission guidelines. We welcome your thoughts and feedback on any of our stories. Email us at voices@equalpride.com. Views expressed in Voices stories are those of the guest writers, columnists and editors, and do not directly represent the views of Out or our parent company, equalpride.

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