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Congressman-Elect Ritchie Torres Is a Fighter, Now Fighting in DC

The history-making Bronx native, and Out100 honoree, is ready to get back to work.

Before Ritchie Torres became the first gay Afro-Latinx man elected to Congress in November, where he will represent New York, the Bronx native's grandfather projected that he would leave an impact on those around him.

"My grandfather would tell me as a child, 'Ritchie you are going to be somebody one day,'" Torres explains to Out. At the time, the younger thought he'd be a teacher when he grew up. "He always had more confidence in me than I had in myself." And it turns out he was right.

In high school, the teen discovered Moot Court, a competition that brings students together to test their debate skills by arguing a case before a panel of judges. The school club is ultimately what led the 2020 Out100 honoree down the path of law and activism and made for a high point in his early life. But college brought on a low point.

"I began abusing substances. I even lost my best friend to an overdose," Torres says. "And I found myself struggling with my sexuality. There were moments when I thought of taking my own life." The struggle saw Torres go through severe depression and eventually drop out during his sophomore year.

"At the beginning of my career, I was hesitant to speak openly about my struggles with depression," he explains. "But over time, as I became more secure in my own skin, I was not only willing but I felt obligated to speak openly and honestly about my struggles. I felt as a public figure I could play a role in breaking the stigma that often surrounds us. As an elected official, I have a platform and so why not use it to raise awareness about something as fundamental to all of us as mental health?"

He continues, "Not everyone can connect to each aspect of life, right? Not everyone is LGBTQ+. Not everyone is Latino. Not everyone is Black. Not everyone grew up poor. Not everyone grew up in the Bronx. Not everyone is a Millennial. But all of us have mental health. All of us have had struggles with mental health or know someone in our lives who has struggled with mental health. It's a common experience and I felt it was important for me as a public official to make it crystal clear that I struggle with depression and it's not something of which I'm ashamed. I have no shame in admitting that I take an antidepressant every day. I feel no shame in admitting that I will not be here today if it were not for mental healthcare, if it were not for the stability it gave me in my moment of greatest crisis. I want for my constituents, and for every American, the same access to health care that transformed my life, that set me on a trajectory that ultimately led to the United States Congress."

With his ascent to Congress, Torres is set to fill the seat for New York's 15th Congressional District that was left by Representative Jose Serrano -- the Democrat retired this year after 16 terms in office. Previously, Torres had served as the NYC council member for the 15th district since being elected in 2013, when he'd made history as the youngest ever on the council. He was 25 at the time. Now, at 32, he's continuing to push forward.

Politically, he is a proponent of police reform and has called for accountability and oversight for all police departments -- in line with much of the public sentiment following the Black Lives Matter protests this summer. Earlier this year, he called for the resignation of Ed Mullins, president of the NYPD's Sergeants Benevolent Association after Mullins tweeted that Torres was a "first-class whore." It was taken by many as a homophobic dogwhistle. Mullins later deleted the tweet and insisted his comments weren't about Torres's sexuality.

Torres also sparred with the notriously homophobic politician Ruben Diaz Sr., his opponent in the primary election. In his tumultuous career, Diaz has referred to queer people as "cursed" and voted against legalizing same-sex marriage in 2009 and 2011. He also claimed that the NY City Council is being "controlled by the homosexual community."

"The voters of the South Bronx were presented with a stark choice between Diaz Sr. and myself," Torres explains. "Diaz Sr. represented the past and I represent the future. He represents the politics of fear and I represent the politics of a multiracial multi-ethnic, inclusive democracy. He is the worst homophobe in New York politics and LGBTQ+ public service. In the end, the voters not only chose me but rejected Ruben Diaz Sr. so decisively that he went into retirement, which is exactly where he belongs."

Torres's victory is a part of a larger shift in LGBTQ+ representation in American politics, including politicians that are increasingly intersectonal. But Torres didn't run a campaign based on representation.

"I assembled a team that knew how to run a campaign effectively and that knew how to adapt to environments like [the current pandemic]," he explains. "I knew from day one that voters were gonna choose the candidate who could speak most compellingly to their bread and butter concerns, health and housing, schools and jobs. I ran as a fighter. I said to the voters, 'I'm one of you, and I'm going to fight for you.' And the voters of the South Bronx saw themselves and their own struggles in my story, in my lived experiences. I went on the strength of my personal story and my record in the city council. They wanted a fighter and a pragmatic problem solver, who was born, bred, and battle tested in the Bronx."

One of Torres's highest priorities in his new position is to expand programs like the child tax credit so that we "put more money in the pockets of families struggling during" the pandemic.

"The child tax credit is the most powerful tool we have for ending child poverty in America," he says. "The present structure of the child tax credit is so progressive that it excludes one-third of American families. And in the South Bronx, two-thirds of American families are excluded from the full credit. So if we were to extend the child tax credit to the poorest families, we would cut child poverty by 40 percent in the span of one year. Where you are born and where you live should never be a barrier."

Torres can't help but smile thinking about how far he's come from in his life, but he also knows how far there is to go toward building a better life for all of his constituents.

A version of this piece was originally published in this year's Out100 issue, out on newstands 12/1. The issue has four cover stars: Janelle Monae, Wilson Cruz, Joe Mantello, and Janaya Khan. To get your own copy directly, support queer media and subscribe -- or download yours for Amazon, Kindle, Nook, or Apple News +. The first-ever Out100 Symposium, titled "How Do We Come Back From This" was hosted by Janaya Khan. Watch the first-ever Out100 Virtual Honoree Induction Ceremony on the Out100 Live landing page.

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Brittny Drye

Brittny Drye is the founder and editor-in-chief of Love Inc., the leading equality-minded® wedding blog and print publication, and host of Inclusively Yours, an LGBTQ-inclusive podcast highlighting wedding planning tips and love stories. Named by Forbes as “The Woman Leading the Way to a More Inclusive Wedding Industry," Drye has also been featured in/on the New York Times, The Washington Post, Refinery29, Insider, KTLA Los Angeles, Good Morning Texas, and more for her inclusive efforts, her wedding know-how, and her candid takes on the state of the wedding industry at large.

Brittny Drye is the founder and editor-in-chief of Love Inc., the leading equality-minded® wedding blog and print publication, and host of Inclusively Yours, an LGBTQ-inclusive podcast highlighting wedding planning tips and love stories. Named by Forbes as “The Woman Leading the Way to a More Inclusive Wedding Industry," Drye has also been featured in/on the New York Times, The Washington Post, Refinery29, Insider, KTLA Los Angeles, Good Morning Texas, and more for her inclusive efforts, her wedding know-how, and her candid takes on the state of the wedding industry at large.

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Jim Obergefell fears same-sex marriage 'will be erased'

Jim Obergefell shares how his love story became the catalyst for one of the most pivotal civil rights victories in U.S. history.

On June 26, 2015, Jim Obergefell sat in the U.S. Supreme Court, holding hands with his friends, surrounded by his legal team, waiting to hear the decision that would not only define his life but also reshape the landscape of marriage equality in the United States. When Justice Anthony Kennedy began reading the decision, Jim immediately sensed the weight of the moment. “My first reaction was, ‘We won,’” he recalls. “And then it sunk in—‘Yeah, Jim, we won.’”

“Holy hell. This decision, our decision to fight, had such enormous repercussions, such enormous impact on our community, on our nation,” he continues, still seemingly in disbelief a decade later.

That victory—Obergefell v. Hodges—became a landmark ruling, legalizing same-sex marriage nationwide and affirming the dignity of countless LGBTQ+ couples. But for Jim, the road to history began in an intimate and deeply personal place: his love for his late husband, John Arthur.

 

How the Love Story Turned into a Civil Rights Battle

 

Jim and John had been together for over 20 years when John was diagnosed with ALS. As his health deteriorated, the couple realized that their time together was running out. In a final act of love and defiance, they decided to marry. “We started talking about marriage in the mid-’90s, but we wanted marriage, not just a symbolic ceremony,” Jim explains.

When the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) was struck down in 2013, they saw their chance. With the help of friends and supporters, the couple flew from their home state of Ohio—where same-sex marriage was still banned—to Maryland, where they were legally wed on the tarmac of the airport, inside a medical transport plane.

“Just that experience of saying ‘I do’ and making our promises to each other—it changed us,” Jim remembers. “In some ways, nothing changed, but in the really important ways, everything changed,” he reflects, noting with a grin how they started constantly calling each other husband.

But Ohio refused to recognize their union. John was dying, and the state would not allow Jim’s name to be listed as his surviving spouse on his death certificate. Faced with this erasure, Jim took a step he never anticipated—he sued.

“I never imagined that my love story with John would lead to a Supreme Court case,” Jim says. “John and I weren’t activists. We weren’t out and about. Most of our friends were straight married couples. For us to end up doing this wasn’t something we ever dreamed about.” But in the face of discrimination, they fought—not just for their marriage, but for the rights of countless others.

Sadly, John never had the opportunity to see the outcome of their efforts, as he passed away on October 22, 2013. “Not surprisingly, [after the decision] my first thought was, ‘John, I wish you were here. I wish you could know our marriage can never be erased.’”

“And then it hit me, for the first time in my life as an out gay man, I felt like an equal American,” he says.

“When I walked out of the courtroom, the crowd just opened up before us. People were crying, cheering, trying to hug us, high-five us. It was electric,” Jim recalls.

That victory, however, came with unexpected weight. “People have called me Mr. Marriage, which I find a little weird,” Jim admits. “But I was so fortunate to be part of the fight for marriage equality. It wasn’t something John and I ever planned. It was just something that happened because we found ourselves in a spot where we had to ask ourselves: ‘What do we believe in? And what are we willing to fight for?’”

 

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The Fight Continues

 

Though Obergefell v. Hodges was a monumental achievement, Jim warns that the battle for equality is far from over. “I always knew I’d be sharing my story for the rest of my life,” he says. “But now it feels different. Now, I tell my story not just with joy but with fear—fear that this story will be erased, our marriage will be erased, that our right to say ‘I do’ will be erased.”

With anti-LGBTQ+ sentiment rising in political spheres, Jim urges the community to remain vigilant. “We have taken some great steps forward, but with every bit of progress in our nation, we take steps back. If we don’t remind people where we’ve been, we’re going to lose it.”

Still, he remains hopeful. “I feel fortunate that I can be a voice for our community, that I can continue to fight for those who are marginalized and vulnerable because the LGBTQ+ community includes everyone—and we must fight for all of us.”

 

A Legacy of Love

 

Despite the weight of his role in history, Jim still sees his journey as deeply personal. “It still feels surreal to me that there’s a Supreme Court case with my name on it,” he reflects. “But we fought for our sense of love, our sense of family, and our ability to live, to exist, and to be treated with dignity.”

“There are millions of people out there fighting [once again] for what’s right, fighting to make the world better. And if nothing else, find hope in that,” urges Jim.

So when you’re asked to stand up for what’s right, say it with conviction, “I do.”

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